'The uttered part of a man's life, let us always repeat, bears to the unuttered, unconscious part a small, unknown proportion. He himself never knows it, much less do others.' - Essay on Sir Walter Scott
Facts · Diagnosis · Theory: Eric Berne and Transactional Analysis · Transactions and Games · Carlyle's Ego States · Parent · Child · Adult · Marital Games of the Carlyles · Psychopathology and Carlyle's WorksSome firm conclusions about Carlyle's personality and health can be made from the information provided on this site.
He was hypochondriacal to an extreme degree
throughout his adult life.
He had associated anxiety symptoms in his
late teens and twenties.
He had a depressive personality, but did not suffer from mood swings or
depressive illness, despite a likely family history of
affective illness. Nor did his depressive outlook seriously affect his ability
to function effectively at any time.
He had sexual difficulties at the beginning
of, and probably throughout his marriage.
He had an abnormal personality. He was
bad-tempered, selfish, egocentric, emotionally childish, and generally
'difficult' and unrealistic about daily life, especially in his marriage.
He was abnormally attached to his mother( Oedipus
complex)
He admired and feared his father.
He was intellectually gifted, both verbally and mathematically, and had
a retentive and almost photographic memory.
His neurotic conflicts made him constantly inconsistent in his
behaviour, both domestically and in his writing.
These psychiatric labels, such as hypochondriasis, anxiety state and
depressive personality, enable comparisons to be made between Carlyle's case
and what knowledge psychiatrists have of these conditions.
His hypochondriasis can be related to his depressive outlook, most
likely learned behaviour, related to his relationship with his mother, to being
the oldest child of a large family, competing for attention with the succession
of annual arrivals. In later life he and his mother found health an
ever-interesting topic, and they had a doctor in the family to share their
interest and to consult.
The anxiety symptoms during his prolonged adolescence can be related to
his many problems at the time. He abandoned the church career his parents had
planned for him with many sacrifices, and must have had considerable guilt at
the pain this caused them. He then had years of painful indecision about a
future career, changing course several times, and fearing failure much of the
time. During these years he experienced poverty, and spent most of them
persuading Jane to marry him, culminating in sexual failure on the honeymoon.
The depressive personality is probably a mixture of genetic and
environmental factors. His father was a serious man with a grim Border humour.
Family and friends were all staunch members of a strict Calvinist sect. His
mother had a psychotic illness, most likely affective in nature, and depressive
personalities are common in those with such a family history. His gloom did not
exclude a keen sense of humour, and the ability to laugh at himself from time
to time.
He showed Irritability as an infant - his earliest memory - and it
persisted through his life. It was a family trait on his father's side, so
likely to have been inherited rather than learned.
The sexual problems. A large and controversial topic since Carlyle's
death. He was raised on farms, and his mother was in childbed annually for many
years, so he cannot have been ignorant of sexual matters as, for example, John
Ruskin was. His Oedipal problems provide a more convincing explanation.
These last problems, his personality, and his neurotically inconsistent
behaviour require some kind of unifying explanation. For this we must turn
to psychodynamic theories of the 'inward springs of character'.
In his book, Games People Play, the American psychotherapist Eric
Berne laid the foundations of transactional analysis. He used a game model to
analyse interpersonal manoeuvres - transactions - which have both an
apparent manifest motive and a concealed one, hidden from those involved. He
also introduced the concept of ego states, used to describe sets of
related behaviours, thoughts and feelings by which we show parts of our
personality at differing times.
His ideas are expressed in more accessible language, and his theories are more
open to experimental testing than those of Freudian psychoanalysis. This makes
them more accessible to the lay reader, and less likely to provoke his or her
instant rejection of them. They can be applied convincingly to explain
Carlyle's personality and marriage difficulties.
Berne labelled three egostates, akin to but not identical with Freud's ego, id
and superego.
If someone is behaving and thinking and feeling in an adult way in his
surroundings and with other people, he or she is described as being in an Adult
ego-state.
If they are behaving, thinking, or feeling in ways copied from their parents or
other parental figures, then they are said to be in a Parent ego-state.
If they return to ways of thinking, feeling, and behaving they used in
childhood, then they are in their Child ego-state
Transactions take place when two people communicate, one responding to the
other. They can be analysed in terms of the ego states of the two participants
and how they interact.
For example, asking the time and being given a direct answer is a simple
communication from Adult to Adult ego state. Fiercely reprimanding an employee,
who then responds with an abject apology, usually is a communication addressed
by the Parent of one to the Child of the other, and is responded to in the same
way. These are called complementary transactions. Crossed transactions take
place when the ego state addressed is not the one that responds. If, for
example, the question 'What's the time?' - an Adult question - provokes the
response 'Time! Time! You're always nagging me about the time!', then we are
dealing with a crossed transaction. The question is treated as a Parent
reprimand and brings a response from the Child ego state. Other transactions
many be ulterior, when two messages are conveyed at the same time - an overt
and a covert one. Usually the overt is an Adult-Adult one, concealing a covert
Parent-Child or Child -Parent one.
The Games People Play are based on such ulterior transactions, and tend to be
characteristic for a particular person. Thomas and Jane Carlyle constantly
played such games over the many years of their marriage.
He had a powerful and complex Parent ego-state,
unsurprisingly, considering his parents. It is the source of his gloomy view of
contemporary society, of his religious thinking, of his prophetic discourse,
and of his public persona, and view of himself as a Victorian husband.
His general message that the present times were disastrous, and that the
distant past was better - I simplify - is a Parental injuction: parents viewing
the next generation are fond of talking to other parents about how things have
changed for the worse. Carlyle takes these complaints to a higher level; see
for example, Past and Present. In old age he said he hated the world
around him.
His religious thinking is complicated; an attempt to come to terms with
his own parents' views. In his prolonged adolescence - the time when youth
rebels and breaks away from parental authority - Carlyle lost his faith in
Christianity and abandoned his divinity studies, a decision which left him with
a legacy of guilt about his parents sacrifices on his behalf. Simplifying
again, he compromised by abandoning Christianity but not God.
In Sartor, and in his other writings, he was careful not to make these views
explicit, partly because of the times in which he wrote, but more for fear of
offending his parents. He retains the belief in a stern God and Father, and in
a stern morality. owing more to the Old Testament than to the New. In all his
correspondence with his mother he does not question her fundamentalist views,
and tries to make out that he is more believing and orthodox than is the case.
His prophetic style, in public and in print, is
Parental, replete with Biblical language, attempting to convince by authority
rather than reasoned argument.
His behaviour in public was often Parental. Increasingly he would
dominate social gatherings, brooking no interruptions while he harangued his
audience with increasingly dogmatic statements. He did not behave in this way
in small gatherings of friends, as Froude attests, when his conversation was
reasonable and responsible: his Adult voice.
Famously he wrote premaritally to Jane, spelling out his view of the husband as
total master of his house. In the early years at Craigenputtoch he would
run his finger over the furniture searching for dust. He could be brutal in
speech, and often turned on his wife as a strict Parent. One of the more
shocking episodes occurred when she was seriously injured in a fall, and in
considerable pain. Carlyle refused to respond as a caring Parent, far less a
reasonable Adult, but rounded on her in his harshest Parent style, telling her
she should be grateful the accident was no worse. Unable to close her mouth
because of the injury and neuralgic pain, she was told: 'Jane, ye'll find
yourself in a more compact and pious state of mind if ye shut your mouth.' At
the time Carlyle wrote to his brother: 'She speaks little to me, and does not
accept me as a sick nurse, which, truly, I had never any talent to be.'
On 21 June, 1856, Jane writes in her journal - in an entry censored by Froude
-: 'the chief interest of today expressed in blue marks on my wrist.' This has
often been put forward as a suggestion that Carlyle had assaulted her. It is
possible that he had been restraining her, perhaps from some suicidal
behaviour. She was undoubtedly depressed at the time.
And yet, well concealed, there was a good Parent. He became the virtual
parent of the large Carlyle family and throughout his life was a generous one
in time, attention and money, even in the early years when he could ill afford
to be. He dispensed charity to beggars and to good causes., and naively helped
many less deserving, who wrote begging letters to him. Childless, he became a
good Parent to Froude.
Both the good and the bad sides of Carlyle's Parent were so powerful that they
dominated his life and work. His parents had a powerful and lasting effect on
him, as his Reminiscences attest. Froude was
fully aware of this, and was the first to compare him to Oedipus, an example followed by all who have
examined Carlyle's psychology since. His fear of his father and his love for
his mother account for many of the inconsistencies in his behaviour throughout
life.
In 1862 the 66 year old Carlyle remained at home when his wife was in
Folkestone. He wrote to her: 'Nothing is wrong about the house here, nor have I
failed in sleep or had a misfortune; nevertheless, I am dreadfully low
spirited, and feel like a child wishing Mammy back.' (his italics)
When Carlyle is hypochondriacal, his Child ego state is in action. Taking
up the sick role - learned helplessness - is a return to the helplessness of
childhood and the need to be cared for, to be nursed. The sick child wants to
be mothered, to have special treatment, to have special consideration. The
neighbours must make no noise, silence is essential, a soundproof room must be
built. The child is selfish, inconsiderate of others, demanding.
There is also a rebellious Child, who in schooldays fought back when
bullied, despite his parents wishes; a child who began to read fiction,
forbidden at home, and who later rebelled against his destined career by not
entering the ministry. A rebellious Child in the adult was throughout life in
rebellion against most contemporary customs and beliefs.
This dependent Child wanted a mother before a wife, and throughout life
placed his mother before his wife. He forced his wife into a maternal role. Not
only must she care for him, she must not expect him to care for her when she
feels unwell. He refused to take on the usual husbandly responsibilities of
marriage. When the income tax inspectors demanded his presence, his wife had to
go in his stead, at that time an unheard of event.
Marrying a mother figure, the Child in him has difficulties in consummating the marriage, and has his new wife is treating him as a patient and mothering him within a day or two of their marriage. In later years, Carlyle saw no harm in his long attachment to Lady Ashburton, despite Jane's protest and distress. To the Child in him she was only another mother figure to whom Jane should have had no animosity.
Carlyle's Adult ego state is well hidden for much of the time because of the powerful effect that his Parent and Child have on his every thought and action. But his ability to make great immediate sacrifices for long term goals was present from his youth and is an Adult characteristic. It is powerfully evident in his work; shown by his persistence in pursuing difficult projects involving enormous amounts of reading and research, and in his ability to master and order his material. His tenacity during the thirteen years he was writing Frederick, and in rewriting the destroyed first volume of the French Revolution is an Adult characteristic. In his long rise from obscurity and poverty to fame he met many setbacks in an Adult and courageous manner. He was responsible in his dealings with his own family, excepting his wife, and made many sacrifices for them throughout his life.
One of his many nicknames for his wife was 'my poor little protectress',
neatly fusing Parent and Child attitudes in one short phrase.
The games in Carlyle's life were played mainly within his marriage. They were
complicated by the fact that Jane played similar games, and the two were not
always complementary. He was over-attached to his mother and married as much for
another mother figure as for a wife. Jane had lost her father in her teens not
long before she first met Carlyle, and had a less than satisfactory and
histrionic mother. She was searching for both a husband and a father figure to
replace her loss. It was obvious that these similar hidden agendas would clash.
During their prolonged courtship Carlyle can be seen, in their correspondence,
trying from the start to elicit sympathy for his ill-health. Shortly before the
marriage he wrote to Jane giving his marital credo at some length: 'The man
should bear rule in the house and not the woman.' At this time, when she
confessed that she had previously been in love with his best friend, Edward
Irving, Carlyle seized on the information, told her he could never make her
happy, that he could no longer love, made repeated offers to release her from
the engagement, and thus established a position whereby marrying him became her
responsibility, with her responsible for the consequences, not him. The bed metaphors in these letters: 'the
thorny couch of pain' and 'my pillow is the iron pillow of despair,' suggest
anxiety about his sexual adequacy in the approaching marriage.
Early in the marriage, Jane began to compete with Carlyle using his own
methods. She had frequent and lengthy colds and chest infections, migraine, and
other more serious ailments later in the marriage. She too took advantage of
the sick role, seeking to be cared for and 'fathered'. In 1846 she writes to
Helen Walsh: 'I am too like himself in some things - especially as to the state
of our livers, and so we aggravate one another's tendencies to despair.'
So complicated games developed. In ostensibly Adult to Adult transactions
between husband and wife, Carlyle would often be appealing as a Child to her
Parent. When she responded in a caring motherly way all would be well. When she
put herself in the role of a sick Child, he would sometimes respond in a caring
nurturing way, but this happened less often, and he was more often the stern
Parent.
Carlyle never became a fully autonomous adult; never integrated the Child
and Parent aspects of himself into a coherent whole with his Adult; and as
result remained throughout his life a prey to irrational thoughts and behaviour
from these parts of his personality.
While it is useful to explain his marital difficulties and personality problems
in this way, it is more important to recognise how his neurotic problems
determined all of his thinking and writing. All his work is dominated by an
attempt to solve these problems. In Sartor he
presents a lightly disguised autobiography in the BIldungsroman section.
Throughout the book he uses the device of an 'Editor' for his fictional
protagonist, Professor Teufelsdroeck, to avoid taking responsibility for, and
to 'split' his opinions. Carlyle's more extreme views - those of Child and
Parent - are put into the mouth of Professor Teufelsdroeck, balanced by more
reasonable and Adult views, put forward by the Editor. In this, his most
autobiographical work, the author shows insight into these divisions in his own
personality, and exploits them in a distancing fictional device unusual at the
time.
Writing his essay on Sir Walter Scott, Carlyle described the age as ‘at once
destitute of faith and terrified of scepticism.’ It could be applied to
himself. His religious views, both in Sartor and elsewhere, show
most clearly his compromises and inconsistencies, and expose what David Daiches
calls 'the inadequate intellectual foundation of his faith.' In effect, he rejects Christianity except
for God the Father, retained as a stern Parent figure, more Old Testament than
New. He would admit this freely in private, but his public and published views
were deliberately vague and difficult to establish, partly because of the times
he lived in, but also from fear of offending his parents, especially his
mother, to whom his letters are models of evasion on religious matters. His
ambivalent feelings for his own father made him unable totally to reject
religion.
The cult and search for the hero, which dominates many of his writings
and lectures, can also be explained by his lifelong search for a strong,
all-powerful father, his own father the model. But his standards for a suitable
hero were excessively high and he had pleasure in finding many potential idols
had feet of clay. He revered but feared his father, and this conflict of
feeling made his search for the perfect hero, as for a satisfactory religious
position, a nigh impossible task.
His gloomy views of society - constantly invoking 'the sick society'
metaphor he had borrowed from his youthful explorations into German philosophy
- were combined with a condemnation of 18th century and contemporary
materialism. He had retained the ethical values of the religion he had largely
abandoned, and preached the need for a return to old ways. His views on the
dignity of labour derived directly from his father. He died believing that he
had not been listened to.
His mixed feelings for his father permeate all his thinking. Men for Carlyle
were either good or bad with no shades of grey. Most of his contemporaries with
claims to importance in any field he regarded with contempt; 'nichts zu
bedeuten', he would say. In the search for the Hero, most fell by the wayside.
In this way he could split his feelings for his father into those he revered -
'gey few, and they're a' deid' as the Scots saying has it - and those many more
he despised. He was never able to face up directly to any hostile feelings
towards his father.
It is as Prophet that we see Carlyle most typically as a Parent. The style is totally different from that he employed in
talking privately to friends. Hectoring, authoritarian, dogmatic, it is full of
Parental characteristics. Carlyle stated explicitly that his style came from
his father - his mode of speech, and the humour from his mother. And from his
childhood background came the Scottish style of preaching, the sermonising and
the biblical language.
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